Today’s New York Times Magazine has a fascinating article about the science of play. While it is quite involved and admittedly, a tad over my head, here’s one paragraph that jumped out at me:
Parents bobble between a nostalgia-infused yearning for their children to play and fear that time spent playing is time lost to more practical pursuits. Alarming headlines about U.S. students falling behind other countries in science and math, combined with the ever-more-intense competition to get kids into college, make parents rush to sign up their children for piano lessons and test-prep courses instead of just leaving them to improvise on their own; playtime versus résumé building.
Maybe it’s a mom-guilt thing, but there is constant pressure to get your little one on the “baby dean’s list.” Is J.J. getting enough free play time? Should I sign him up for enrichment programs? What’s the right balance? How will he get into a top college if I can’t get him into a top pre-school? And, how is his current activity load going to affect his social and academic future?
Then the rational part of me takes a step back and realizes there’s no need to stress. He’s got the next 18 or so years to go to school everyday and do homework, so if he lingers around the TV or his non-educational toys a little longer on a given day, what’s the big deal? And, besides, no matter what the science says (if you can decipher that article and summarize it for me, you get extra credit!), lots of learning takes place through play.
Just think about some of the interaction you share together during the infant months, for instance:
Game: Peekaboo
What baby is learning: Object Permanence (the understanding that objects continue to exist even when they are out of sight)
Game: Pat-a-Cake
What baby is learning: Rhythm and coordination
Game: Opening and closing the light
What baby is learning: Cause and effect
See? Learning can be fun. So put the flashcards down for a few minutes, and go act silly with your kids. Or better yet, let them play on their own, how they want. Your job is to sit back and observe — you just may learn something.